Sex Advice – Improve Your Sex Life Like an Olympic Athlete

Sex is not always a sport and, although sex games and sex positions abound, it should never be a competition. However, if you want to become a gold medalist in bed, you can’t expect to sit back and hope that the best sex of your life descends on you by magic or is somehow passed down through the genes of your ancestors. You have to train.

Superstar coaches of practically every sport on the planet train their aspiring athletes with the same basic principle. No matter what the sport, competition, or activity, the best training always consists of two essential parts: mental and physical. Training must be 50% mental and 50% physical.

The physical 50% is the kind everyone who has ever watched a sports movie is all too familiar with. In sports, it involves those ten-mile hikes through the mud in the rain at 5 AM. It involves charging through barriers made of foam, stepping through gauntlets made of tires, and passing the ball back and forth until it becomes second nature.

In the arena of adult sex, the physical 50% means that you need to get as much practice as you possibly can. Know your own body like… the back of your hand. Get to know the body or bodies of your spouse, partner, or friends with benefits until you can trace them in your sleep. Don’t expect to have mind-blowing sex every time right away. Expect only to practice.

But just like in any sport, the physical 50% is not enough.

For athletes, the mental 50% involves both watching other professionals perform the right way the actions they hope to excel at and also playing back the tapes of their own performances in order to spot their own weak areas. The mental 50% is all about studying, immersing their minds in the sport, activity, or action so much so that when they get on the field, their bodies automatically follow suit.

In sex, the mental 50% can be accomplished in a number of ways.

Reading is one of the easiest ways to train your mind in the art of sex. Sex advice is readily available in large and free quantities online, so find a sex blog or sex advice portal that you love and visit it often.

Playing the tapes back is another great way to get in the mental 50%, so don’t be ashamed to find some tasteful erotica and take notes. If your partners or friends with benefits are adventurous enough, you may find it equal parts enjoyable and educational to film yourselves in various states of undress performing various sex positions and sexual acts. When you watch yourselves later, you can highlight the things you did that really made your partner scream as well as make a mental note of the things they did that sent shivers through your spine.

As you sculpt your body and your mind for the best sex of your life, don’t forget what sex is essentially all about – having fun and connecting with your partner. In sex and sports alike, perfection is never guaranteed, only improvement.

Fifty Shades Paves the Way for a New Young Adult Novel

Fifty Shades of Grey’s BDSM theme and sexual content may be too much for young adult readers, but it has provided the platform for an up and coming author to achieve success by creating a “toned down” version of the romantic relationship of Christian and Anastasia. Warner Bros has been chosen to make the movie version of the self published e-book, later picked up by a publishing house, Beautiful Disaster. Novelist Jamie McGuire modeled this book after Fifty Shades, detailing the tumultuous relationship between a college student and her domineering crush, but minus the kinky-sex and S&M. Following in the path of The Hunger Games and the Twilight, this novel turned screenplay takes an adult style story and makes it appeal to a younger audience. The audience for these types of movies and books creates an opportunity not only for aspiring authors to find their niche but also for a huge payoff.

It appears that romance stories are not enough anymore and that there must be a conflict, and a little naughty interaction, for them to be popular. With all three of the successful titles preceding Beautiful Disaster, there is at the heart, a huge hurdle for the main characters to get over in order to have the love they desire. Fifty Shades and the two other books in the trilogy provide not only the conflict of opposing worlds, but also the juicy details of Christian and Anastasia’s bedroom activities. The question is: will Beautiful Disaster live up to the demands of the success of its big sister?

One thing is for sure, Fifty Shades of Grey is much too racy for young adult readers, but as times have proven, these readers are hungry for more mature content… now more than ever. With each passing decade, children of younger and younger ages are becoming desensitized to violence and sex. Movies, television and fiction that is supposed to appeal to a young audience is inundated with adult jokes, violence and sexual innuendos, claiming to be more fun for the parents and meaning a bigger paycheck from the box office. Unfortunately, kids are not blind to the changes and are picking up on much more than they used to, nothing gets by wide and curious eyes. As the movie version of this young-adult novel comes to fruition, there will be a difficult task for the producers to keep from making an adult film with a young-adult rating.

Reach For A New Level Of Intimacy: Sex Toys For Him and Her

There are a lot of women who are a little put off about their man watching porn or using sex toys. They feel that somehow it diminishes what they have and that it means that the man needs more than just them. It may sound strange but women can actually be jealous of magazines, movies and latex.

Women feel betrayed and angry because their man will usually hide his toy use and porn consumption. What women fail to understand is that this is an area that could actually draw the two of them closer if she will only let it. This attitude is not restricted to women, there are men who go ballistic when they find a vibrator in their woman’s arsenal.

The problem is that these insecure men and women see the sex toy as a rival instead of one more way they can find enjoyment with each other. The key to being comfortable with all things sexual is being confident.

Sex toys are not something that is new, they have been in use in some form since ancient times. While most people think of them as a piece of equipment for solo use, they can be used by couples to add a new dimension to their love. It is a way to take the taboo out of bedroom play. It might amaze many that there is still a very puritanical way of thinking when it comes to sex and what is acceptable.

Sex toys come in a variety of shapes, sizes and models. While the world is more accepting all forms of stimulating devices for women like vibrators and dildos, more and more you will find that the market is opening up for men sex toys.

We are all familiar with the jokes surrounding the “blow up doll” as a female substitute, but these are no longer the only item being made for men today. There are many hand held devices that make solo sexual satisfaction better. There are times when many couples find that coitus is not practical. It is at these times that the male sex toy can be a great relief.

The real trick to enjoying adult sex toys is that you and your mate become comfortable with your sexuality. You have to be able to enjoy sex with the lights on, without shame or inhibitions. The reason a lot of men hide their porn and sex toy use is that they have grown up in a society that have made it “TABOO” to do what comes naturally.

It is this prevailing attitude and the females insecurities that make men feel a sense of shame. We are trained to believe that sex is only to be an activity between a male and female. That pleasuring ones self is depraved somehow. Although we have become a more enlightened society these ingrained notions still exist to a certain degree. Adult sex toys are seen as items used by only a subversive subset and that “normal” couples do not need to enhance their sex play.

Before now the adult sex toys were delivered in those plain brown wrappers or you had to do a “cloak and dagger” routine so that no one would see you going into “one of those shops”. The Internet has changed all of this, you can now browse the catalogs of hundreds of sex shops, from the privacy of your own home.

Pornography As a Turn-On for Fun-Driven Adult Sex

Adventurous couples can buy a pornographic video and watch it together. That is generally a surefire way to end up in bed. In fact, it is usually when couples are in bed that they watch such films. And if the film is a good one they will enjoy being turned on as they watch it. Many couples find that the provocative content stimulates them to duplicate what is being viewed. They are impulsively driven to touch each other, kid around, mimic the sex acts, and swing from the imagined chandelier as they tickle each other’s fancy.

In many countries in the world, including most industrialized ones, pornography is not banned or hidden from view. For example, at King’s Cross district in Sydney, Australia a section of the city is designated to show and sell pornography Sex oriented videos, DVDs, books, sex toys, lubricants, assumed aphrodisiacs, are sold in kiosks and stores. Strip clubs, restaurants, massage parlors and other clubs are available to meet members of the opposite sex.

In Europe, in many countries, and cities pornography is not hidden and thus available for adults. In all the countries there are restrictions to the sale of pornography to children and prosecution of offenders is open and continuous.

In the US pornography is not banned from sale to adults although there is no tolerance on anyone abusing the Child Pornography laws.

But for the purpose of improving the sex life of adults pornography has a place for some. Do you have to be lonely or hard-up to use porn? The answer is No. Porn can be a substitute for sex for many lonely and sex starved adults, mainly men, and for adults without a partner who like visual stimulation for self-arousal.

Finally, let’s examine whether pornography can fit into the armamentarium of the average adult who wishes for increased stimulation for lovemaking. What can porno offer?
As with any movie there is added stimulation by watching real pictures compared to imaging such scenes. Some porno videos actually tell a reasonable story where there is more than just sexual exploitation. So some selection is necessary. Google is a good resource to discover what are considered the best sex videos made in the past few decades.

Beside adding visual stimulation couples can mimic what they see, learn about new positions, empathize with the excitement of the sex partners, imagine participating in the viewed sex, experience sex beyond their own interests, such as gay, bi, S and M, bondage, oral and anal sex, and the use of fetishes. Some show dancing, foreplay that could be stimulating and perhaps above all can act as a stimulus to open the viewers to become freer and lustier about sex.

If you attempt to try out the benefits of sex videos and it is new to you imagine becoming an adventurer and explorer so you don’t take a negative bias into your viewing. An open mind will allow you to gain what might be there for you. At the very worst it won’t have any effect on you and may even turn you off. If so, just chalk it up as another interesting experience.

To determine if pornography may be a stimulus for your personal sex life approach its use openly. It might be a new vehicle for greater enjoyment of sex for occasional use or even frequent use. Remember adults have no restrictions on what they mutually do and prefer behind closed doors. So enjoy the movies and enjoy the sex and know you have taken another step to gaining a new stimulus for sex and love.

by Marvin H. Berenson, M.D. July 12, 2011

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Watching Adult Sex Videos Together – Movies Make Magic

Although they still have a stigma for many people, watching adult sex videos with your spouse can be a really great way to improve your marriage sex. Available in as many different varieties as there are types of people in the world, you can watch everything from very basic, “soft porn” as it is called to more graphic and experimental types of adult films. Sensual and erotic imagery is both visually and mentally arousing and may even plant an idea or two in your minds for what you would like to try with one another. Rather than being something that only single men watch in the dark, by themselves, while they masturbate, adult films are actually a really effective type of foreplay for many married couples.

Many couples may secretly want to watch an adult film together, but are hesitant because they are afraid to suggest it to their mate. For some women, there is a fear that their husband will find the women on film more attractive than they find them. For some men, there is concern that their wives may be turned off or find fault with their arousal. The reality is that watching adult films together can be a real bonding experience. It may take several tries to find a particular genre of adult film that works for you both, but in most cases, just the simple act of being “naughty” and watching other people getting physical is enough to start something fun for the married couple watching.

If you and your spouse have decided to watch an adult sex video together, then you should discuss what kinds of films are “OK” and which ones are “off limits”. For instance, your spouse may be uncomfortable watching a film that depicts more than one partner at a time. The object of watching an adult sex video together is to get one another turned on, not turned off, so be sensitive to one another’s preferences. One of the benefits of watching a sex video together is that you may get ideas for positions to try out. Also, having the noise in the background may also help lower your spouse’s inhibitions when it comes to expressing their pleasure vocally.

If you are looking for an easy way to improve your marriage sex life, watching adult sex videos together is a great way to start. Sit back, relax, pop in a video and let nature take its course. You may find that you are having the hottest sex of your marriage, in no time flat!